Concern for the family and caregivers
Just as people with cancer should not spend all their time thinking about their illness, neither should family members and friends spend every spare minute thinking about or being with their loved one. Caregivers need relief and rest if they are to stay emotionally and physically fit and remain helpful to their loved one with cancer. If you are a caregiver, plan time for yourself. Ask friends or other family members for help. Tell them exactly what they can do to be helpful. Many times they are just waiting to be asked. For more information, please see our document called What It Takes To Be a Caregiver If you are not the main caregiver of the person with cancer, it helps to think about that person as well. Caregivers often focus most of their energy and time on their loved one with cancer and may not have time to take care of themselves. You may be able to offer help so that they can have a much-needed break. Just a couple of hours may be a big deal for someone whose loved one is very ill. Even if you are not able to do this, the caregiver might appreciate hearing someone ask how he or she is doing. You can ask about the caregiver’s feelings, too. It can be very lonely and stressful to be the main support person for a person with cancer. With everyone concerned about the person with cancer, it’s easy for the caregiver to be overlooked.